How do I deal with my boyfriend's insane work schedule?
March 29, 2008 7:52 AM Subscribe
How can I deal with the fact that my boyfriend is never around?
posted by lxs to human relations (33 answers total) 15 users marked this as a favorite
My boyfriend recently came into a lot of work and doesn't get home until late at night most days, with only an occasional day or two off. We have been dating for several years and have always spent a lot of time together. While it doesn't seem like it's going to be like this every single day for forever, it does sound like he's going to have periods with this amount of work on and off for most of the foreseeable future. He loves his work and so I know that I should be happy for him, but I just find myself feeling jealous of his work and his coworkers and wondering why he is alright seeing me literally only a few hours per week. I feel like if I could just come to terms with this jealousy and the resulting anxiety, I could do what everyone suggests, and pick up a hobby, hang out more with the (admittedly few) friends I have, etc., but I just sit around pouting and feeling hurt. Really, I just miss him a lot. FWIW, we do live together. Any suggestions for maintaining a relationship when one member works a whole lot?