The Straw that Broke the Lease
January 3, 2008 8:24 AM Subscribe
Roommatefilter: Do I lie to my landlady and say I'm being transferred out of state, or tell her the truth...that my new roommate is a possibly dangerous alcoholic?
posted by anonymous to human relations (24 answers total)
A little background. The setting is Chicago. I met her through a coworker I don't know very well. At first, this roommate seemed fine. But people unfold in strange ways. Her behavior changed drastically whenever she got drunk, which happened with increasing frequency. After I had an honest discussion with her about this disturbing trend, an accord was reached, but the accord was to prove temporary. The drinking resumed, along with the scary, self-destructive, and threatening behavior.
Her behavior is not up for argument. It is unacceptable and unlivable. I need out of this lease. I will not live somewhere that feels unsafe. Please do not respond if you are going to tell me to work it out with her. She has serious emotional problems and paranoia, and you cannot argue or rationalize with desperation.
Now here's the situation with the lease. It was my place first. She moved in a while after. The landlady drew up a new lease to include both of us, but the roommate lost the copy that was to be mailed in. Anyway, I am meeting up with the landlady soon to discuss all of this, and I can't figure out if I should tell her, "Hey, this girl might be dangerous, let me out of the lease", or would it be easier to lie and say I'm getting transferred out of state, therefore making the breaking of the lease seem less like a personality clash and more like a necessity? If I merely let her know about the problems I have been having with this roommate, I'm afraid she'll say "Suck it up, I'm not letting you break the lease".
Or, given the fact that the lease has yet to make it to the landlady, is it possible I might be able to have the roommate booted, even though she's paid a few months of rent? Seems unlikely to me, as she has really dug her heels in and wouldn't leave without a fight. Subletting would be very difficult, as I'm paying a lot more than I should in rent.
Thank you for your honest and thoughtful advice.
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