How do I be a godmother?
January 2, 2008 10:46 AM Subscribe
I'm going to be a godmother. What does this mean?
posted by starbaby to society & culture (28 answers total) 1 user marked this as a favorite
My husband and I are in our mid-twenties and have no children. He was raised in a non-religious environment; my mother's a pagan and my dad is an unconventional, lax Christian. We have no history of formal religion. A couple of friends of ours just found out they are pregnant and have asked up to be godparents. She was raised Catholic, and is of Spanish and Mexican heritage. While I understand her to be non-religious, I have a feeling her family is still staunch Catholic and will want things to be relatively formal, Christening and all. He is from a white Protestant family, and I'm pretty sure he's an atheist now. Given their personal religious beliefs, on top of their knowledge of ours, I don't feel that we will be expected to guide the child in religious matters.
Here are my three questions:
If they do have a Catholic Christening, what will our roles be in the ceremony?
Assuming religious roles are put aside, what will our roles be in the child's life? I've heard I might be expected to contribute to the child's college fund, etc. So, socially, what is the ettiquette of my responsibility?
The couple have three other children from previous relationships. If they have godparents, I don't know them. I should probably avoid showing favoritism in front of the other children, even though they are not my godchildren, right?
Anything else you can offer that I haven't covered here is much appreciated. I'm horribly naive on this subject. Thanks!