If you tell me "Congratulations", I will barf all over you.
December 4, 2007 6:52 PM Subscribe
I've recently discovered I'm pregnant, but I won't be staying pregnant, especially now that I know that's what's been making me feel so awful for the last several weeks. But I've missed a lot of work and several social events; people are worried about me. Everybody's always asking me what's wrong. What do I tell them?
posted by anonymous to human relations (50 answers total) 4 users marked this as a favorite
I started feeling constantly nauseated and fatigued in October. Since then I've been quite incapacitated but as many folks without health insurance are prone to do, I just rode it out the best I could and hoped it would go away on its own. The culprit turned out to be pregnancy, which was so incredibly unlikely that it didn't even occur to me to pee on a stick until last week. Luckily, though, this is a solveable problem, and I have an appointment for a consultation at the clinic later this week. The surgery itself won't take place until next week sometime.
I never wanted to be pregnant, and as abortion seems like the most none-of-your-business of all surgeries, I'm sort of stuck on what to tell people like coworkers and not-closest friends when they ask me (with the best of intentions) what's going on with my health. My boss, for example, knows that I have a doctor's appointment this week (I had to ask for time off to go to it) and will probably ask how it went. I'd prefer to keep the whole thing a secret, but since everybody already knows how sick I've been, that's not really an option.
Any advice about the etiquette of this? Are there any conditions that can make a woman want to do nothing but sleep and puke for weeks on end that I can lie & say I have instead? (only half-joking.)
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