how can i be open, communicate better and learn how to talk about my feelings with out getting so upset?
November 7, 2007 6:06 PM Subscribe
ok so does he really think he can replace me entirely? how can communicate how i feel?
posted by cathec to Human Relations (23 answers total) 7 users marked this as a favorite
ive been going out with ma boy for about 6 months during which time we have never been in a fight before
he hardly ever gets mad and i hardly do ever either but when he does upset me i normally don't say anything about it im the type of person that finds it reeeeeal hard to talk about feelings does anyone else get that?
i want to get better at communicating how i feel but don't know where to start sometimes if im real upset i feel if i say anything i mite cry and i never like other ppl seeing me cry any suggestions?
anyway last nite me and my boy had a conversation,
he was saying that everyone can b replaced
i was saying yes they can but it will never be excatly the same - example an employee of yours quits and you replace him but no one works exactly the same way he will have a different approach and view on things
he said that you can easily find someone the same or almost pretty much the same and kept repeating that everyone can be replaced which i disagreed with
what i really should have said to him was 'so do you think you can replace me easily then?'
however i ddnt think fast enough instead i kept my mouth shut
later on i said so what if a i died?
he said then id wait a year and then find someone else
fair enough if i died i would want him to move on but although he never used the words directly it upsets me that he thinks he can replace me entirely every single bit of me...
i had a mate say that to us once and not as a joke that she could easily replace us and even that hurt!
its not til the next day at work when i properly sit down and think about it and although its a little thing it really really hurt me
made me feel like i was of little value to him that he believed i could easily b replaced!
from what ive told you do u think im making a big deal out of nothing?
i wish i had asked that question to set things straight that would stop me from over analysing things like i am now! so h ow can i be open, communicate better and learn how to talk about my feelings with out getting so upset?
if someone close to you said that you could easily be replaced would you be mad?
thanks for the help guys :)