How to avoid the holidays without causing a big riff in the family?
October 27, 2007 2:46 PM Subscribe
Is there a way to excuse oneself from family obligations during the holidays? A way that would minimize gossip and guilt-trips? Any successes out there?
posted by anonymous to society & culture (22 answers total) 11 users marked this as a favorite
Because everyone probably has messed up families, I'll keep it short: Over the last year I had several times where I was in need of some non-financial help. Looking back, out of the tunnel, I can see how as one friend put it, "your family is just kind of a bunch of assholes."
They're not terribly toxic, like many other families I've read on here, just sort of very status conscious. I've been distancing myself by not attending lesser gatherings, but have a feeling that the major holidays are more of a must. I'd like to avoid them at all costs while minimizing the drama.
Has anyone successfully avoided the holidays? Directly saying I don't want to go would cause unnecessary fights and gossip. I'd like to recuse myself to minimize this. I'm sure I'm not the first person on here to deal with this, so personal stories about what to expect or what not to do would be welcome.
Seeing them every couple of years would be more than enough for me, and I'd like to enjoy the holiday season again.