The (non)babbling idiot, excluding this question in which I babble rather idiotically
October 21, 2007 9:11 PM Subscribe
I suffer from a general retardation when it comes to expressing myself verbally in romantic situations, and I am a female. And I'm 25.
posted by anonymous to Human Relations (22 answers total) 9 users marked this as a favorite
This has always been an issue for me in relationships. It's like since I'm a female I'm supposed to know just what to say. The reality is that I am the one perpetually at a loss for serious words to describe my emotions, yet never at a loss for a sarcastic one-off that has in the past bordered on criticism. I've curbed that mostly because I'm way less bitter now that I'm past adolescence.
The conversation always goes "How do you feel about me?" or "-insert sweetest, most insightful thing any man has ever said to a woman-, what about you?" and then I blank. The most creative compliments I can think of being "Duh, I think you're funny, too" or "You're sexy, ahur."
Why can't I articulate myself? Why do I clam up? I guess I just feel like anything I say would be trite or not significant enough and then I'm completely blocked. I need some specific examples of sweet things to say that are sincere but aren't flowery and ridiculous.
Of course anything I actually say will come from me and my specific experience, but I need some phrasing assistance or something...I want to be a better romantic.
The person I'm dealing with right now makes me laugh and is effing hot and smart and I want to be in direct contact with his penis as often as possible. This may sound mildly amusing in print but doesn't quite flow when spoken. And even if I say it once, which I have + 10 times the charm, saying it again the same way grinds my nerves and I feel like an idiot repeating myself in such a non-creative way. Any advice, specific or general?