how do I met female
October 16, 2007 11:57 PM Subscribe
Friends, there is no dignified way of saying this: I'd like advice on how/where to meet girls (in the DC area?), and/or how to signal attraction effectively. (LONG POST)
posted by Vic Morrow's Personal Vietnam to human relations (18 answers total) 7 users marked this as a favorite
Yes, I guess I've become one of THOSE askmefi posters.
I'm currently in the Washington DC area. I'm 19, which rules out bars, clubs, etc. I went to a local college last year, but I'm taking time off from college because (a) I couldn't stand the social atmosphere at the college I was attending and (b) I have lost pretty much all of my academic motivation in the past few years. So no college right now either. I've been trying to find a job, but without much luck so far. I'm confident I will get one eventually, though, which might ameliorate the situation somewhat. (Also, I went to a single sex high school, which was a hell of a lot of fun but made meeting girls a little more difficult than usual.)
This lack of places to interact is compounding a problem that I already have, which is apparently a complete ignorance of the laws of attraction, and an inability to recognize attraction or lack thereof.* I've never been in a relationship (or on a date, for that matter!), and there's only been one instance I'm aware of where a girl obviously flirted with me (if I recall correctly, she had just funneled her seventh beer and her boyfriend was standing about five feet away). I've asked a few girls out -- trying to be direct on a couple of occasions and more casual on other occasions -- but the answer has been no each time.
So basically, I can't decide whether (1) I'm missing some obvious piece of information that's crucial to dating, or whether (2) I'm just not meeting enough people. In case it's the second, could you recommend places or activities (particularly those in the Washington area) where I can meet girls of my age? I'm interested in photography, films/filmmaking, anthropology, singing, and soccer, so any activities or groups that emphasize those could be helpful. (Do colleges usually let non-students attend their club meetings?) And if it's the first, I have a feeling there's not much advice you can give me -- I'll probably just have to learn the ropes from trying and failing a few times.