Stay or play?
August 31, 2007 7:18 PM Subscribe
Should I break up with my boyfriend? Or 'play the field'?
posted by anonymous to human relations (40 answers total) 3 users marked this as a favorite
I'm 21 (girl) and I've been seeing one guy exclusively for nearly 3 years... Yes, I love him, he is completely adorable and good to me, an exceedinlgy kind person. We don't live together nor have plans to in the near future.
2 weeks ago I met someone else at a party, when I was alone. The new guy was amazing to talk to, we completely clicked, which suprised me bvecause I'm usually rather cool when I first meet people, even cold (nope, I was not drunk either). He did proposition me, but I refused even though I was exceedingly attracted to him. Thanks to the modern wonders of facebook/social network and an good mutual friend of both of ours, he emailed me. I replied and now we've been having a dialogue/phone conversations since then and he wants to meet up. Meeting of minds at least, possibly bodies. Sigh. I'd love to but... the boyfriend.
It did get me thinking though. I've had one other relationship (teenage-drama-rama) before the boyfriend, which kind of does bother me ('lack of experience')... I adore him but in 2 years or so he's moving overseas after his studies finish. I intend to go offshore relatively soon as well but it will be different continents. I would love to marry him or something like that if I was 10 years older... but for now, not an option. So I guess what I'm asking here is... do you think I should A) go off and play the field, starting with the new guy B) stick with and appreciate boyfriend until inevitable break-up/attempt friendship with new guy, C) have an affair (haha just kidding... I wouldn't be able to do that) or D) continue OMG-wtf-cry-and-overthink-turmoil (current status)
So far no one knows about each other. I have extensively searched the archives... so I appreciate your thoughts! Special askmefi email: email@example.com