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August 26, 2007 6:54 AM Subscribe
Meeting and making friends from online dating sites?
posted by anonymous to Human Relations (14 answers total) 7 users marked this as a favorite
So, I have a profile on one of those free online dating sites. I don't invest much in it, but once in a while I will get messages from people. So far nothing has panned out past an awkward date or two, which is fine, really. But occasionally I get a message from someone who seems interesting and who I'd potentially like to be friends with -- though I can already tell they're not someone I'd like to date or be in a relationship with. I'd like to pursue the friend thing with some of these people (I live in a major sprawly metropolitan area where it's often difficult to make and maintain friendships), but I'm concerned about the possibility of leading them on, or other awkwardness. My pre-emptive guilt about this often prevents me from replying at all, which I recognize as silly. So I guess my question is: Is there an acceptable, accepted way of making platonic friends from dating sites? If so, when and how do I make my intentions clear? Before we even meet? After the first date? I don't want anyone to get the wrong idea.
(Oh, and if it matters, I'm a guy, I'm straight, the messages are from women.)