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August 22, 2007 10:27 PM Subscribe
How to stop feeling like I need to do my own work plus everyone else's?
posted by elisynn to human relations (8 answers total) 5 users marked this as a favorite
One of my bad habits is to feel overly-responsible for everything. For example, I might put a lot of effort and dedication into a summer job, even when it's dead-end and I know I only took it to save up some money; I usually end up taking on more responsibility than I need to or find myself mulling at length about a certain problem even at home, trying to resolve it. That's great for my employer, but not so great for me. I do that with people too. I don't micromanage their lives, but I do end up taking on part of their problems and getting preoccupied with them. Sometimes it seems that I think their resolution is more important to me than it is to them.
The world won't stop running if I focus more of my mind on the things that concern me the most or only the most important tasks, and I know I'm usually happier for it. The question is how to do that more frequently (or more efficiently?). Sometimes I almost feel like I'm not doing my "job" (whether it's work or being a good friend/family member/co-worker or whatnot) if I just relax a little, but then I'm not being there for me.