How do you know when you are being taken advantage of?
August 20, 2007 8:51 AM Subscribe
Are there any good criteria for identifying when you are being taken advantage of? I love to help people, but sometimes I think that I may help people too much. This tension makes me uncomfortable.
posted by unknowncommand to human relations (19 answers total) 10 users marked this as a favorite
On the one hand, I want to assume that people are good, and that my worries are unfounded, and that any instances of being taken advantage of are outweighed by the goodwill that I intend to contribute to. On the other hand, sometimes I end up feeling paranoid, used, and resentful.
Does anyone have any guidelines for navigating these conflicting feelings? What are some good boundaries to put into place, so that I know when to put myself first?