Visiting our daughter, how to go about it?
August 3, 2007 4:02 PM Subscribe
Parentsfilter - I have split up with the father of my child and are now trying to sort out visiting rights and times. Advice please....
posted by anonymous to human relations (15 answers total) 1 user marked this as a favorite
So the father in the question already has another child from a previous relationship which he sees 3 weekends out of 4. As i do not live near him now, when he does see our daughter it is going to involve two hours travelling.
What is causing us to have arguements, is the fact that i am asking for a routine when it comes to visits. I had a bad relationship with my father and am wanting my daughter to have a good one with hers. To me this means having routine and stable visits from the dad. I personally can not see why he should not be splitting his free time equally between the two children, even if this means giving up one of his weekends with his son.
He though says that 1 - He is not wanting to really give up a weekend with his son, as this would be unfair on him. And 2 - Although he is 31 he has wages paid into his mums account, as he in not reliable with money, so the decision is not untimately up to him.
I am getting stressed out by the whole thing, because it seems that i am never going to get anything consistant from him, and am now wondering where i go from here?