been caught stealing...?
July 22, 2007 11:35 PM Subscribe
A close friend has accused me of stealing from her. I didn't. How do I mend this?
posted by timory to human relations (29 answers total) 1 user marked this as a favorite
I visited a good friend of mine in Chicago a week or so ago. She has since announced to me that she has found a lot of things missing from her room (mostly plastic jewelry, and a shirt I think... nothing of value) that she says I must have taken from her. She says that she will not listen to anything I have to say on the subject, and the impression I get is that she does not ever want to speak to me again.
Needless to say I am completely shocked, but most of all I am heartbroken - I would never dream of stealing from a friend. I don't know how to set things right with her, if that's even possible. Is there etiquette for this? I know I haven't actually taken anything, but should I try to replace these items? Send her a gift? Cash? (Oh, and yes, I rooted through all of my bags from the trip just to make sure that nothing of hers sneaked in, and I've got nothing. In fact, I think I left a few things there!)
For what it's worth, her room is such an absolute cluttered mess that if she's made up her mind that these things are gone, then they are effectively gone. Even if she were to find them, she is not the kind of person who would admit to it. Still, I want to make her feel better at the very least.