How do you take a compliment?
July 20, 2007 11:36 AM Subscribe
Compliments and self-worth: Help me help my friend understand not everyone thinks she's stupid.
posted by Cool Papa Bell to Human Relations (34 answers total) 4 users marked this as a favorite
A friend of mine gets the following email from a professional colleague after she organized a two-day meeting with 15+ people involved.
I wanted to thank you for organizing such a productive meeting. It really quite well, and we're all excited about XXX. Thanks for organizing everything, getting the right people in the room for us, and also for supplying breakfast, lunch and organizing the dinner. It was a great trip overall!
Her response to me:
Am I crazy? This doesn't sound like a compliment. This sounds like pandering. Any trained monkey could've done what I did -- made a few calls, made a dinner reservation, etc. I feel like the ugly girl being told I have a great personality.
The question: How can I make her take a compliment for what it is? She seems to feel that this compliment is somehow demeaning and humiliating. How does she break the rut of feeling like everyone thinks she's stupid and treats her like she's in the Special Olympics?