A complaint about my brother's wife who I don't want to punch but might...
July 12, 2007 11:48 AM Subscribe
How to handle the very annoying sister-in-law part of my toxic, dysfunctional family?
posted by ohdeanna to Human Relations (23 answers total) 5 users marked this as a favorite
I am either looking for advice, or, for those of you who can relate to chime in and say- Yeah, I can relate....
My family, my brother's family, and my parents all live in the same vicinity. So, it's difficult to avoid having at least some contact.
I am the designated "black sheep" and no matter what I do/ don't do any more- can't seem to shake the label and for the most part no longer care... (I had a wild youth marked by exuberance and not unoccasional bad judgement, but not any real, lasting destruction... and I have few regrets...) I am now a happily married gov employee with 3 children, a quilting hobby, and my drumkit set up in the garage.
I no longer fret about my notoriety of old except for when I have to be around my mother and my brother's wife: If you have seen "Ordinary People" you may have an idea of what my mother is like. My sister-in-law has somehow positioned herself as the golden girl and as much as I normally would laugh this sort of thing off- it's really getting to me. She's calling my mother "Mom." My mother is the least maternal, least likely to respond to this sort of sentiment- and I cringe every time she does it in front of me. (and I think she does it in front of me on purpose...) She gladhands my parents and my parents' alcohoic Republican friends at gatherings (and they are eating it up) and I am really starting to resent it in spite of my better self.
She does enough little, insinuating things- things that make me sense a rivalry from her when there is, truly, no competition- I lost that one a while ago. I think she wants to rub my face in something and I feel like punching her sometimes. Help me not to.
And, no, unfortunately I can't totally avoid these situations b/c despite my unpopularity- my children are popular in as much as they are at least ornamental to my parents.
Thanks for any sense anyone can make of this or any shared comraderie....