Is thinking about my therapist this much normal/ healthy?
June 18, 2007 8:29 AM Subscribe
Is thinking about my therapist this much normal and/or healthy?
posted by anonymous to Human Relations (21 answers total) 6 users marked this as a favorite
I've been seeing a therapist for several months and I feel good about the progress I've made with her help and guidance. However, there are times when I can't stop thinking about her, and I find that somewhat disturbing.
It seems natural to feel something for a person who knows so much about me, has helped me through difficult times, and who seems to genuinely like me as a person (yes I realize that its her job to make me feel that way, but I still think she does). The fact that I know very little about her is like an itch that I can't scratch. It feels imbalanced and strangely stifling. Last night I googled her for half an hour trying to find something out to satisfy my curiosity.
I wouldn't say that I'm in love with her, but I do have very warm feelings for her, as I would for a close friend or sibling. I get excited thinking about talking to her, and I feel energized even when I've had even the briefest contact by phone.
I understand that as a professional she needs to protect her boundaries and avoid sharing too much of herself with me, and I try to respect this by not asking her personal questions. So, hive mind, how do I resolve these feelings of curiosity about my therapist and wanting to be her friend?