To church or not to church
June 13, 2007 7:48 AM Subscribe
How do we go about choosing a priest for a catholic wedding when I am lapsed and he is atheist?
posted by anonymous to human relations (34 answers total) 5 users marked this as a favorite
I was raised Catholic, but have found myself questioning my beliefs for the last 10 years. As a result I am generally lapsed and have become Catholic-lite. Christmas/Easter only. My fiance is entirely atheist, but very respectful of my beliefs.
We're getting married in late 2008, and we're at the stage where we need to choose a location as well as an officiant. While neither he nor I have any strong feelings about a religious ceremony, my family has expressed very very strong feelings about a religious ceremony. We feel, ultimately, that who says "I now pronounce you..." is immaterial, and we feel it'd probably be easier to go along with our families wishes. Any words of "you'll regret it if you don't do exactly what you want to do," will be less than helpful.
What I really need to know is how to approach choosing a priest and church. I vaguely know the priest at my mother's church, and I plan to start there. However, how can we go in and ask to have a priest marry us when we aren't active parishoners? How can I avoid the "why aren't you going to our church every weekend" guilt-trip?