Where can I meet women in Phildelphia?

May 31, 2007 9:02 AM

Where can a 29 year year old guy on a temporary assignment in Philadelphia meet women?

So the longer version: I am a 29 year old guy who has never been super smooth with women. I just got out of a 2 year relationship and am working on a 2 month project in the Philadelphia area. Quite honestly I am not looking for a new long term relationship, especially 1000 miles away from home. I am looking for some fun...even just a one night makeout session. I would love to try to rebuild my confidence for when I return home and yes I wouldn't mind being a bit of the bad boy for once.

I am sure this makes me a terrible person in some peoples eyes and I apologize if thats the case.

I should also note that due to the nature of the company I am working for meeting people online is not an option, nor is going out with 'the guys" from work to meet people. This also means I will have no wingman...so I will be trying to meet women alone, without looking kooky! Good luck to me.

So where in the Philly area can I meet women who would like to just meet mr.right now?

posted by anonymous to Human Relations (9 answers total)

The upside of being somewhere you don't know anyone is that no one knows you! Who cares if they think you're kooky? You're never going to see them again! This is your chance to be wild and crazy- go to bars, talk up every woman in the place. Smile, ask questions, don't whine, make small talk about normal subjects (I'd, uh, probably not mention Metafilter at this time). If you're not getting any vibes from one girl, move on to someone else. If you make a fool out of yourself, so what? Move to the next bar, repeat. You'll get rejected, but I bet you'll also find people who like you. Good luck.
posted by ThePinkSuperhero at 9:35 AM on May 31, 2007 [1 favorite]

I was in Philly for a hockey tournament last weekend and met some really hot women 19-25 just walking on South Street.

I'd say any bar \ bumping into people \ or local college will do the trick.

You're in a new place so just be natural and do the opposite of whatever you usually do. Since you aren't as you say, super smooth naturally, you won't be finding any women unless you get over that first.

Good luck
posted by zephyr_words at 9:40 AM on May 31, 2007

Hook up joints = 2nd Street between Market and Chestnut but be forewarned that the majority of these bars are of the totally gross clubitup.com variety so I guess your gino tolerance level will determine whether or not this works for you.
posted by The Straightener at 9:42 AM on May 31, 2007

You realize that if this place existed, and it was posted here, that there would then be to many men there for your purpose?

There is no reason why you can't go to a bar, or somewhere else, by yourself. You are probably more likely to meet women when you are not with a bunch of drunk guys. You don't need a wingman. I think wingmen are kooky, personally. I have plenty of men introduce themselves to me who are in town on business, no need to feel that women will find this unusual. Don't limit yourself to bars, either.
posted by yohko at 9:43 AM on May 31, 2007

Old City has some good bars, as does the area around Suburban Station. You really can't go wrong on South Street, either, as long as you go to the kinds of places on South Street that you're interested in, thereby increasing the likelihood of meeting someone interesting.

This coming from a serially single Philadelphian, so what do I know?
posted by sjuhawk31 at 9:50 AM on May 31, 2007

a friend of mine was telling me about this monthly(?) event called Making Time... basically a bunch of young "hipsters" go and get drunk and dance. he said you can pretty much walk up to any guy/girl there and just start making out. basically he described it as a fully clothed orgy haha.

here is what he had to say:
"so fair warning...if you've never been...it is ridiculous
have you been to transit at all?
it's a pretty large club, but there will be so many people there you'll barely be able to move no matter where you are
soulwax, klaxons and 2many djs are on the main floor probably...the djs in the basement are usually pretty good
have a couple drinks, dance and make out
nobody will be paying attention anyway...you'll be slipping around on sparks and sweat and vomit
it's a good time"

here is the link he gave me: http://www.igetrvng.com/rvngi.php?a=events&b=76
posted by hummercash at 9:57 AM on May 31, 2007

Try South Street if you can tolerate it. Old City also has lots of bars and such, if you can tolerate that.

It sounds like you're just looking for a one or two night stand, and there is no shame in that--they're fun. Try some of the clubs that hummercash suggested. You're bound to find a gal there.

Also, buy drinks for girls, but not in a sleazy way. They KNOW you're doing it to get laid, but don't make it seem like that's what you're doing it for.
posted by misanthropicsarah at 11:24 AM on May 31, 2007

Touch people lightly on the arm.
posted by ibmcginty at 12:36 PM on May 31, 2007

So where in the Philly area can I meet women who would like to just meet mr.right now?

Pick up Philly Weekly and City Paper.

Go to any bar that advertises drink specials.

See girl. Say hi. If she says hi back, gently engage in polite conversation. (Careful! Not too eager...You must be able to sit comfortably by yourself for a few moments without feeling desperate for conversation.) Ask her where she's from. Point out that you're here for a couple of months and don't know many people. That should pretty much set you on the right course.

If conversation ensues, buy the next round. If you just have a nice short chat, then let it be, don't force the issue. Tell yourself that having a pleasant chat is a good thing...you're not a hunter stalking prey, for gods' sake.

If she mentions a boyfriend or you realize that you're not going to get anywhere, don't abruptly dump the conversation and turn to the next girl --- every girl in proximity will then know that you're either very bad at this "talking to women" thing, or they'll just think you're a jerk.
posted by desuetude at 7:20 AM on June 1, 2007