How can I help myself not feel depressed?
May 20, 2007 9:15 AM Subscribe
What do I do about being (maybe) depressed when one of my issues is a complete refusal to talk to others about how I feel?
posted by anonymous to Health & Fitness (10 answers total) 15 users marked this as a favorite
Some days I feel fine, some days I feel like absolute crap. I don't know if I'm imagining how I feel, or whatever, but most days I can convince myself that even if I'm imagining it, that kind of screwed up imagination itself probably means I should see someone. But I can't/won't/don't want to. I just barely ever talk about how I'm feeling, or negative stuff that happens (it took me about a month to let my close friends and family know that I'd broken up with my longterm live-in boyfriend). I have normal conversations about how crap last night's tv was and so on, even stuff like the cute guy I hooked up with, but nothing really deep. And I know I could if I really wanted to, but I really really don't want to. When I was a teenager I told a teacher I was very close to about being depressed, and then it went to my parents and I spent a few months enduring sessions with an absolute idiot of a psychologist. Probably not helping me now.
Things I do at the moment to help myself:
-plan for specific future goals, like a week's holiday later this year, and work towards it (look up my destination, put money away)
-exercise: I've played sport my whole life, I normally exercise three or four times a week. It's good, but I feel worst at night, and can't really just head out for a jog at 3am.
-being conscious of good things: I've started noticing the awesome scenery around me, like going to one of the prettiest campuses in the country. I try and list positive things I've got, like travel opportunities and so on.
My original question was how could I make myself see a therapist, but on writing I think that I won't until I really want to. So, what can I do for myself to help me feel better? And, spontaneous extra question, how do I bring stuff like this up with friends, without being an attention seeking drama queen?
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