How do I tactfully ask my girlfriend to move out?
April 25, 2007 7:59 AM Subscribe
How do I tactfully ask my girlfriend to move out of my house?
posted by anonymous to human relations (36 answers total) 9 users marked this as a favorite
My girlfriend and I have been living together for about 4 months. She moved in to my house after about 6 months of hinting and hoping that we could live together. I asked her to move in because she was having some issues at her previous place (not important).
However, I have been really uncomfortable with us living together since the beginning. It's not one specific thing but I'm the type of person that needs copious amounts of "alone time" to feel relaxed and maintain my insanity. She really doesn't understand this (after many attempts at an explanation) and gets frustrated that we don't spend all of our time together when we're home. It ends up that I spend my time with her (hanging out on the couch or whatever) and I end up feeling very stressed and anxious and "trapped". I really wish I had the same freedom I did when I lived alone.
I'd like to continue our relationship but with us living apart. I'd like to find a really tactful and diplomatic way of expressing my feelings to her that I don't want to live together anymore and I want her to move out (it is my house that we live in currently). Unfortunately, she's very sensitive about feeling rejected and is a bit on the dramatic side…
Any ideas on how I can approach this sensitive topic?
(we're in our early 30s if it matters)
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