He loves me, or he loves me not?
April 9, 2007 3:54 AM Subscribe
Does he have feelings for me? Or just when he's drunk? I need an interpreter of male I-want-a-relationship cues.
posted by catatethebird to Human Relations (41 answers total) 7 users marked this as a favorite
The short version, we were in a relationship five years ago, in love, etc. Recently reconnected, and ended up in a friends-with-benefits type thing, after we both proclaimed we didn't want a relationship right now. He is very shy, and I know from past experience very disinclined to speak about his feelings or make the first move in anything.
So, generally he treats me as a friend (that he's sleeping with) but with some of those little affectionate gestures that you do when you have feelings for someone. The thing is, he gets much more affectionate when he drinks. Much more touching, cuddling, telling me how great I am/compliments, and so on. So I'm wondering, does he have feelings of more than friendship for me, but he's too inhibited to show it when he's sober, or is it just the alcohol that's making him feel all warm and fuzzy, and he doesn't really have any feelings for me at all?
Of course, at some point I will actually talk to him about this, but I want to step lightly right now and see if I can figure out where we stand a little better first.
(and, um, I'm thinking he's not being affectionate to get in my pants, as he's already gotten in them)