How to help a young couple come to terms with a miscarriage?
March 11, 2007 1:14 PM Subscribe
How do I help a young couple who have recently (within the past 10 days) suffered the trauma of a miscarriage? Baby was due in just over a month.
posted by Solomon to human relations (23 answers total) 3 users marked this as a favorite
I know the couple through work, him slightly better than her. I see neither of them on a regular basis, and very rarely contact either of them. But I can't begin to imagine the level of devastation that something like this brings to someone, and I'd like to do something to help. That's assuming that there is something...
Some possibly pertinent information - she has a history of eating disorders, and is blatantly not as happy as she claims to be (this is based on the 5 years I've known her). She will always put on a happy, smiling, brave face. She also never asks for help, and tends to refute it when it's offered. He is quite a bit younger (11 years) than her, and has mentioned in the past that the relationship (just under 2 years) isn't as rosy as she makes out. Neither of them are particularly good at displays of emotion, other than to each other. I'm not sure if any of this is relevant, but I figured I'd mention it in case.
I've never been in this situation, nor will I ever be, so I can't empathise to any great degree. And I certainly don't want to come over as pitying either of them. But if there is anything I can do, I'd like to do it. I just don't know what it is. I don't think a nice card and a bunch of flowers is really going to help matters, somehow.
So what *can* I do?