February 13, 2007 2:25 PM Subscribe
How can I help or at least understand my friend who is closed-minded, but doesn't realize it and doesn't care?
posted by hypervenom to Human Relations (29 answers total) 4 users marked this as a favorite
Normally I wouldn't presume to even think about this, but she is a very close friend and I have never known anyone with this quirk. She is obviously very intelligent, which is why this bothers me - because she has so much potential.
But she never, ever uses it. She doesn't think about the reasons why she does anything; it's like she's just going through the motions and waiting for death. She'll talk to me for 10 minutes about how she couldn't decide which lotion to buy at the store, but is highly averse to talking about subjects that don't refer directly to our lives.
If I try to talk about art, for example, she'll have strange violent reactions, saying things like "thinking is stupid" or "I don't know, I guess I'm just one of those dumb people" and refuses to talk about it any further. She's actually given me the silent treatment for persisting. It's like I've been rude and she's trying to teach me a lesson.
I might just be projecting with my crazy questioning self, but I worry about her. She's happy, but she could be so much more. Does anyone even know what is happening?