Should I pursue him?
January 30, 2007 5:31 AM Subscribe
Should I pursue a guy I've only seen three times in 8 months?
posted by girlwonder to human relations (29 answers total) 6 users marked this as a favorite
This guy and I go back to last year, when we had a date in summer that lasted over 12 hours (with sex) and ended in a reasonably romantic walk around his beautiful college at 5am on a summer's morning. Sparks definitely flew.
I moved away a few days later, but we kept in touch over summer, as both of us were travelling/away. I saw him for a second date when I happened to be back in our university city in November - same thing happened. Last week, back there again for work, I text him on the off-chance he was free - same thing again. Lots of talking, kissing, arsing around in bed and general start-of-something feelings (on my part). He's funny and affectionate and smart and I like him a lot.
Just to complicate things, I'm in an open relationship with someone else, who doesn't inspire any of the above feelings in me.
My question, I guess, is what do I do? My heart is saying "chase him" but I'm very jaded right now (not had a good year for heartbreak) and unsure what he wants. Plus, we live about an hour apart in different cities. And I tend to feel like if he felt the same he might have done something about it by now. But, I don't feel like this very often.... help mefi!