Is it okay (socially and legally) for a 21 year old guy (me) to date a 16 year old girl?
What are the legal and social problems with dating someone that is underage (for the record I live in Arizona). I met this girl who I see at least once a week (she works for my mother).
I could tell right away that she liked me, and to be honest I thought she was very attractive, but I later found out about her age and decided that I shouldn't do anything about it. That was about a month (maybe a bit more) ago. In that time she has been overt in expressing her desire for there to be some sort of relationship between us; hugging me when I come by, making me cookies, offering to make me dinner at her house, inviting me to places. All the while I would be as nice as I could without feeling like I was leading her on, letting her think there was something more there.
The last two weeks though I've been spending more time with her, I had lunch with her five times in the last two weeks (at the deli where she works for my mother), and I've come to the decision that I want to ask her out.
I'm very wary of her age though. From what I can tell in Az the age of consent is 18 (wiki
), but that would only apply if we were having sex. You may not think this to be the truth, but I wouldn't let that happen, in the very, very rare chance that it came up.
What I've decided to do is ask her out, but tell her I want to talk to one of her parents (they are devoiced, and her dad is a cop) and make sure they are alright with us dating, if not it would stop right there.
For what it's worth her age does bother me, not that she's immature or I think she's a child, she's not. She's very mature graduated early from high school and going to be starting collage in fall '07. It's more the number then anything else that gets me.
My friends who are closer to the situation, as well as my mother are all in favor of me asking her out, but I wanted some unbiased opinions.