Why can't I get an erection?
December 9, 2006 1:07 AM Subscribe
I'm 21 years old--could I have erectile dysfunction? Or could it be emotional?
posted by names are hard to Health & Fitness (15 answers total) 2 users marked this as a favorite
So, I'm a 21 year old male. I dated the same girl for the past two years, and we had sex consistently without any, uh, trouble on my end. I'd say maybe 3-4 times I couldn't get an erection. Probably two of those I was drunk and blamed it on the alcohol. The last time was the night before I left to go abroad for 4 months (where I am now). We were saying goodbye, but I couldn't get it up for a long time. When we tried again later that night, I could but it was a softy. This, to me, suggests some sort of emotional connection, because I was sad to leave her.
Fast forward to last night. My girlfriend and I broke up a few weeks ago, and I met a girl here last week who I've been hooking up with. Last night we went back to her apartment and made out/got naked, etc., etc. I got a little hard for a little, but then when we were naked and probably ready to move on, I lost it. Kaput. Erection gone and nowhere in sight. How embarrassing!
Now, a few caveats. I was a little drunk. But, by that point I had really sobered up I think. I was tired and stressed too. Don't know if this effects matters such as this one. And, the kicker, I am still thinking about my ex-girlfriend, because it was a tough break-up, me being abroad and all.
I am definitely attracted to this new girl. She is hot, and I have a good connection with her, so I would not be quick to ascribe my issues to not being attracted to her.
Is this occasional problem something I should see a doctor about? or a therapist? I'm 21, at the prime of my life, and do not want to not be able to get it up anymore.