How do you know when to settle down and make a life for yourself?
November 30, 2006 8:33 AM Subscribe
When do you know that it's time to move on to a new stage in life vis-a-vis settling down with one person and starting a family?
posted by anonymous to Human Relations (12 answers total) 4 users marked this as a favorite
I grew up in a very religious community, and left it at age 20, which was six years ago. Since that time, I've been trying to make up for a cloistered adolescence -- nothing too extreme, just casual dating, a fling here and there, a relationship that was planned to last six months and not longer due to her leaving the city.
I recently met a woman on an online dating site who's a bit older than I am -- 33 to my 26. Our online conversations have been fantastic so far, but of course the age difference keeps on coming up. It's not so much of an a priori "you're way younger than me" problem; I've always been attracted to woman older than me, and I find I get along best with early 30-somethings. She, though, is specifically looking for someone with whom to settle down and eventually procreate. It's a scary proposition when you think about it for the first time.
I guess the question is, how do you know if and when you're ready to make the transition from 'dating for fun' to 'dating for a future'? To make things more difficult, I'm starting medical school in September.