"Secret marriage" sounds so skeevy...
November 20, 2006 12:41 PM Subscribe
What are the practical repercussions of getting married and not telling anyone?
posted by anonymous to Human Relations (31 answers total) 2 users marked this as a favorite
My partner and I are for all intents and purposes engaged (by that I mean that we live together, we plan to get married, and people close to us know that.) We're not too wedded (HA HA HA) to the concept of heterosexist hegemony and all that; rather, we love each other very much, would like to make a public committment to each other, figure the chances of at least one of us getting a job with benefits is much higher than both of us doing so, and would like to throw a big party where people bring us money and presents. Right now we're hoping to do that last part sometime after 2008, as we're currently dirt poor college students.
However, despite all my disclaimers about wanting to get married, we're both really into the idea (found in earlier Ask MeFi posts about engagement) of getting secretly married at the courthouse and announcing it as an engagement. I think it's romantic, and me and my partner like to put ourselves into situations that make us feel like we're in secret clubs. (We'll get decoder engagement rings or something.) However, are there practical reasons we should not do this? We make hardly any money at our crappy service jobs, and only file taxes for refunds. My parents still claim me as a dependent, but it looks like my marital status doesn't matter for that. The other thing I could think of that marital status affects is the FAFSA, but as we're both under 24 it seems like being married could only help us on that count.
Am I totally missing something obvious? We live in TX, and I'm posting anonymously because my mother obsessively googles my name, email address, childhood nicknames, height, weight, and birthmarks.