Engagement questions! (ring, timing)
November 20, 2006 12:42 PM Subscribe
Pending engagement questions re: Ring, timing, and secrecy!
posted by anonymous to human relations (14 answers total) 1 user marked this as a favorite
Alright, so its been almost 3 years, and I want to propose to my girlfriend.
-Ring Background: I have deduced that she would like a filigree platinum/white gold ring setting (no simple solitaire bands), and that she wants a diamond (she's dropped some hints and clues over the last year or so). I would like to either get a non-conflict diamond, or better, an heirloom/antique one. Budget-wise, I have no idea. I've made up a number around $3000, but it's kind of arbitrary. We are recent college grads that are about to become poor students in about 6 months (moving for grad school, will have no sources of income for 6-24 months). I make about $1000/month, and have ~$40k stashed away in investments ($ from parents/grandparents), some (10-20k?) of which will probably be used to help support us over the next 2 years.
-Ring Questions: What is involved in getting heirloom diamonds? What should I know? Where should I go (I'm in Los Angeles, but not adverse to buying online, unless I should be adverse to buying online for some reason I don't know about)?
Is there any way to make a non-arbitrary budget for this? Will $3k get a nice rock in a nice setting? How the hell do I figure out her ring size without her knowing (she may own some rings [I've never seen her wear them], but I doubt they're fitted to her ring finger)?
I want it to be a surprise, and I have some ideas for settings she might like (I'm thinking Disneyland or horseback riding, or both somehow [aren't there horses or carriages or something at Disneyland?]). I could wait until our anniversary, which would be nice, but that's 3+ months away. We're planning on going to Disneyland in 1-2 months. Can I get a perfecto ring in that time?
-Secrecy: Who do I tell beforehand? Noone? Our mutual friend who would be perfect for ring-shopping (she's the one who delivered the hint about the filigree setting), but is already depressed at all of her friends getting married when she just broke up with her boyfriend. Parents? Brother?
I've read the other posts tagged engagement