what happens when you report a rape?
November 3, 2006 12:46 PM
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What can I expect if I report a rape to the police?
I'm considering reporting a rape that happened a few days ago to the police, and I would like to know before I do what is going to happen. If you have any experience with something like this or have known someone who did, please tell me how it all works. How will the police treat me? What will they want to know? What kind of evidence will they ask for? I know its not supposed to happen but isthere any chance my name will get out? If they arrest the man who raped me, will they let him out on bail? Will it go to trial? How long would that take? What would a trial be like? What are the chances he'll be convicted? I basically don't know anything about this and I have a really hard time getting involved in stuff when I don't know how it works.
I'm worried particularly that their isn't enough evidence for anything to come out of this, and that it will be a lot of trouble for no gain. I'm not really physically hurt, though I have a few bruises. I've showered sevaral times since it happened but I saved my unwashed underwear, which has some semen on it. The man who attacked me was a friend and I was hanging out with him voluntarily. So if he were to say that what happened was consensual I think it would come down to his word versus my word, and that seems like very weak proof. But I realize I don't even know how much proof is usually needed for something like this. I live in the upper-midwestern US, if that helps at all.
I DO NOT want to hear about how if I don't report it he's going to rape someone else. I am well aware of the ethical arguments and am taking them into consideration very seriously. Please be respectful.
posted by anonymous to law & government (25 comments total)
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Beyond getting someone you know contact RAINN for advice. Do this now. They have people who can give you more accurate help for where you are than I can.
I'm sorry this happened to you. Take care of yourself.
posted by Sara Anne at 1:02 PM on November 3, 2006