wedding Etiquette and professional ob
January 24, 2004 7:32 AM Subscribe
Etiquette question: when weddings and professional obligations clash, what do you do? [more inside]
posted by jessamyn to Society & Culture (14 answers total)
A very good friend is getting married this Summer and would like me to be in his wedding in Chicago. He is getting married the exact same weekend as the bulk of the American Library Association conference in Orlando. I live in Vermont. I am a recently elected member of the ALA Council and am expected to be at both the Midwinter and the Annual meetings in order to participate in ALA governance. Think "ALA Congress". I am one of about 200 Councilors. My term lasts three years so I will miss 1/6 of it if I miss this conference. On the other hand, I understand that weddings are a "once in a lifetime" event so maybe it's worth blowing off the conference. I don't really know the etiquette in these situations and don't really have an idea of how much you are supposed to sacrifice to make it to a friend's wedding.
Both ALA and my friend would understand, whatever I decided, so at least it's not a matter of kowtowing to whoever is the most demanding. I get no financial support from work for the conference but I could afford to do pretty much either, both, or neither. My question is: are weddings important enough to ethically skip out on a conference for? I never went to a wedding until I was in my mid-twenties so I don't have much of a sense of how people prioritize them in with the rest of their lives.