How to not F up my first Rosh Hashanah?
September 18, 2006 7:11 AM Subscribe
First Rosh Hashanah. Tips?
posted by n'muakolo to Religion & Philosophy (25 answers total) 2 users marked this as a favorite
Well, we did his first Christmas, amid much angst, and it went well. Now it's my turn. This weekend I'm joining my boyfriend and his family for Rosh Hashanah, and I'm wondering if there's anything I should know. Of course, I've asked him, but who knows what he knows about social conventions, etc. They're Reform, I know that. (I was raised agnostic, family all Catholic.) He and I are talking about marriage down the line, and if we do get married, & have kids, I would convert, so I want to make sure I don't F it up upon my first Judaism experience with his family, whose opinion is very important to him. He says I don't have to go to temple, but I think I should. He is a little stressed about melding the worlds, and being concerned about whether I'm okay, while also enjoying Rosh Hashanah.
Generally, I'm wondering what to expect at temple and at home, what I should wear, if there's anything I'll be expected to do/say/etc. They're not incredibily religious - much more than I'm used to, but that's not saying much - but VERY pro-Israel. He's given me a rough idea about how his family does it. He says this includes about 4 hours praying in the temple - how on earth does anyone maintain the concentration for that? I don't think of myself as having a short attention span, but I can't imagine not fidgeting if I'm sitting in one place that long. He thinks I should wear something nice to dinner, and a skirt to temple. True?
If there are other tips about other Jewish holidays/or the conversion experience, that would be absolutely welcome as well. (And tips for dealing with other people's hostility towards conversion - I'm starting to encounter that in a shocking way.)