How to have Sex Talk with multiple-diagnosed teen boy
September 18, 2006 6:32 AM Subscribe
Situation: 16.5 year old son, ripe with hormones. Also ADD & PDD-NOS, as well as depressed, which make him impulsive, resistant to authority, and Not So Good at social cues.
He's sending sexually explicit text messages to a girl, who's apparently willing to go right along. Even if we we permissive [I am, his bio parents aren't] he's not ready for it.
How do we talk to him?
This ain't your typical family sex chat. Family dynamics are a tad messed up. Dad is depressed, maybe has Apergers [not so good at social cues himself]. Dad also -never- discusses sex.
Mom is lesbian and I'm her partner. Dad often ends up yelling at Son, Son gets resistant back cuz Dad's not in treatment and in denial, and it gets worse from there. I get to step in after Dad flames out. And o, did I mention this is a Major abuse flashback Hot Button for Mom? And she and I think Son is gay [lots of signs, gay friends agree] but fighting it.
thanks in advance,