How to wow my boyfriend
September 17, 2006 3:08 AM Subscribe
I'm at a total loss about how best to help make my boyfriend's birthday an amazing experience and I need your help!
posted by Lleyam to human relations (15 answers total) 3 users marked this as a favorite
We've been together about 3 months so I haven't spent a birthday with him before; he tells me that he hates his birthday and wants to spend it as out of his tree as possible. With that in mind we're going out clubbing the day before (Friday). Saturday is the birthday itself and I should imagine will mostly be spent in bed, nursing headaches and then getting up later in the day to drink more. I've organised a surprise dinner with a bunch of his friends for the following Monday, which I think he's going to love.
So, the problem?
(1) I don't have any idea what to get him as a gift. I've thought about a personal shopping trip at Harvey Nichols with me picking up the bill (he wants some cool new clothes but doesn't have much money). Trouble is, he's probably not going to be in the mood for going shopping if he's got hammered the night before! So, I was thinking about something practical like an iPod (he doesn't have one but *loves* music) or an upgrade to Final Cut Studio (he's an artist working with photo/video) or something like that... But it just seems so impersonal. I'd love to buy him a piece of art, but that's such a personal choice and I don't yet know enough about his taste to judge.
(2) I want to do something romantic but not too gushy for him on his birthday itself. I've considered having flowers delivered to his flat but I don't know when he'll be there or if he'll be staying at my place. I don't want to ask him to tell me his plans as he's stressed about the birthday already and just wants to be free and easy about the whole thing. I could do something like make him a romantic breakfast but I bring him breakfast whenever he stays over with me anyway, so its not special enough.
He's turning 38 this year. We both live in the east of London (Shoreditch kinda area). Like I said, he's an artist but has to temp in an office for money, too. He's not particularly comfortable with effusive romantic gestures but isn't cold by any means. He would probably appreciate something that was funny in some way and would make him laugh. He's also pretty gross sometimes too, so that might work... We're gay if that matters.
I haven't got a specific budget in mind.
(And just to make it more complicated, I have to move flats that weekend!)