Should he know that I know?
August 28, 2006 12:34 PM Subscribe
How do I correspond with someone who I have just learned has a life-threatening illness? (He doesn't know that I know.)
posted by anotherpanacea to Human Relations (15 answers total)
My college advisor, with whom I am sort of close, has recently been diagnosed with leukemia. I learned of this through unusual channels (gossip, basically,) and I'm not sure if, or how, I should acknowledge it. We normally exchange a few e-mails a year, maybe a phone call, but I have an immense affection for him (I went in to the same field, and he's very much a role-model and a bit of a hero.) My first impulse was to write him a sappy letter. This is fairly atypical for our relationship, however, and I certainly don't want to burden him with -my- anxieties about -his- illness. Should I pretend I don't know? I'd appreciate any suggestions.