Where do I go to figure out the meaning of life, the universe, and everything?
August 23, 2006 6:57 PM Subscribe
Boston or SF? SF or Boston? *head desk*
Help me hive mind, as only you can!
posted by Eudaimonia to work & money (38 answers total) 1 user marked this as a favorite
I switch from leaning towards one city to the other many many times a day and mostly end up in the fetal position. I've looked at a whole bunch of threads and though I try to filter the advice and apply to myself as best I can, I still find myself hopelessly confused.
I moved up to the Bay Area a few months ago to help out with some research at Stanford (I'm a psyc. major and I didn't do much research while in school. I want to go to grad school and have realized I need to get as much experience as I can). Despite going through the breakup of a four and a half yr. relationship, I managed to make friends with my roomies and despite being in Menlo Park, am finding ways to keep myself occupied (kinda). I hated it here initially, but love-love-love it now. The summer research is over and I've got two options: stay at Stanford and keep doing research (not paid, mind you) while I live off savings and maybe find a crappy job to supplement me or go to Hah-vahd where I might have a research job waiting for me (and more face time with professors, which I hear is important).
A few kinks though: I already know people in the Bay area..and they're cool. My ex-roomate/good friend may move up here soon and we could move in together. My college alumni chapter has a big presence here. But..no foreseeable job and if I want to live in SF proper or the East Bay (which I do), wouldn't commuting a few times a week to Stanford suck major ass?
I've visited Boston before, and loved it. When I think of Boston, visions of the Red Sox!, Apple picking!, Leaves Changing!, and Maple syrup, er, gathering? dance in my head. For someone who had an unnatural fondness for WGBH programming when I was younger (who didn't like The Victory Garden or This Old House (the old ones)? Not to mention the New Yankee workshop), New England holds a certain romantic fascination for me.
I don't know anybody in Boston save my recently ex-bf's parents and friends, and might be able to hang out with them, but can we say "awkward!" I did love his family and liked his friends quite a bit, but the break up is fairly recent and I don't want to rely on him too much. I know I can make friends, but it isn't that easy for me and Boston kind of scares me because it seems difficult to integrate if you're not either in school or a local (though I am open to being proved wrong). Plus, the cold. Oh, the cold.
I want to do things, man. New things, cool things. I can find an afro-celt-polka-acrobatic-dance class up here in a second. And while I'm not saying I can't find this kookiness in Boston, perhaps SF wears its kookiness more on its sleeve (or at least advertises it more readily on Craigslist)? I'm not particularly outdoor-sy, but I'd like to be, and I like the fact that you can do that mostly year round here (I'm originally from the west coast and I've found that winters, after going to school in Chicago, don't mesh well with me...SAD affects me in a big way). I heart driving and I'd keep my car if I stayed in the bay area (not in Boston), plus finding a place to live would be much easier if I decided to stay here...
So, erm, yeah. What should I do?
I really don't mean this as a "which city is better?" question. I mean it more as a: Imagine yourself, almost 23yrs old, single for the first time in young adult hood, trying to "find yourself," in the midst of a quarter-life crisis and not *particularly* career focused... where would you be?