Appropriate clothing
August 4, 2006 7:00 AM Subscribe
I'm due to meet my new girlfriend's father for the first time next month. He has a great sense of humor apparently, but bad eyesight (and is too vain to wear glasses). Would wearing one of these T-shirts be a good idea or not? (Any other suggestions welcome!)
I'm going to vote for a big HELL NO. Meeting your girlfriend's father for the first time is most certainly not the time to wear a shirt that says "you look like a fucking wanker."
Kids today... mutter mutter...
posted by Justinian at 7:03 AM on August 4, 2006
Kids today... mutter mutter...
posted by Justinian at 7:03 AM on August 4, 2006
Wear clean trousers (khakis or the like -- no jeans) and a buttoned down shirt (ironed, but it doesn't have to be tucked in.) And unscuffed shoes (or at least very clean sneakers.) Once you've convinced the man you're a nice, upstanding fellow, wear the wacky shirt another time once he's warmed up to you. He probably does have a good sense of humor, but be respectful of him -- you're schtupping his daughter, don't be a wise-ass on top of it.
posted by macadamiaranch at 7:08 AM on August 4, 2006 [1 favorite]
posted by macadamiaranch at 7:08 AM on August 4, 2006 [1 favorite]
How to Meet Your Girlfriend's Parents
Luckily, the internet has you covered on this one.
posted by Xalf at 7:10 AM on August 4, 2006
Luckily, the internet has you covered on this one.
posted by Xalf at 7:10 AM on August 4, 2006
That depends. Do you want him to think you're obnoxious or polite? If the former, go right ahead and wear that shirt. If the latter, heck no, don't wear it.
posted by cerebus19 at 7:16 AM on August 4, 2006
posted by cerebus19 at 7:16 AM on August 4, 2006
If you have to ask? No.
posted by hazelshade at 7:22 AM on August 4, 2006
posted by hazelshade at 7:22 AM on August 4, 2006
Jeez, I have a terrible lack of do/say-the-right-thing-at-the-right-time filter and can see that wearing it is a bad idea. Wait, this was a rhetorical question, right?
posted by horseblind at 7:28 AM on August 4, 2006
posted by horseblind at 7:28 AM on August 4, 2006
Never ever ever take someone else's word that someone has a great sense of humor. There are as many different types of "great senses of humor" as there are fingerprints.
That shirt is stupid. See, I have one of those great senses of humor and I don't find it funny in the least. If I saw someone wearing it I would think they were trying too hard. Don't try too hard, and don't try to be funny, and if you care about what he thinks of you, don't wear anything that might be misconstrued or taken as offensive the first time you meet him. Be amusing, funny, clever, witty, etc. with your sparkling conversation, not with your clothes.
posted by iconomy at 7:29 AM on August 4, 2006
That shirt is stupid. See, I have one of those great senses of humor and I don't find it funny in the least. If I saw someone wearing it I would think they were trying too hard. Don't try too hard, and don't try to be funny, and if you care about what he thinks of you, don't wear anything that might be misconstrued or taken as offensive the first time you meet him. Be amusing, funny, clever, witty, etc. with your sparkling conversation, not with your clothes.
posted by iconomy at 7:29 AM on August 4, 2006
I'm going to go out on a limb here and say go ahead and do it. If you're seriously thinking of doing this you'll do some stupid shit later, so best get it out of the way early.
posted by geoff. at 7:30 AM on August 4, 2006 [2 favorites]
posted by geoff. at 7:30 AM on August 4, 2006 [2 favorites]
Response by poster: Yeah, thought you might think that. He's a wacky old man though, apparently, who finds swearing funny. He really likes South Park as well.
But er, yeah. Might actually meet him first, and judge for myself. (I very much doubt that Jo would have let me in the front door wearing one of those anyway).
Commonsense prevails and a possible disaster is averted. Next week - should I French kiss her mother the first time we meet (she lives in France...)
posted by Tokil at 7:32 AM on August 4, 2006
But er, yeah. Might actually meet him first, and judge for myself. (I very much doubt that Jo would have let me in the front door wearing one of those anyway).
Commonsense prevails and a possible disaster is averted. Next week - should I French kiss her mother the first time we meet (she lives in France...)
posted by Tokil at 7:32 AM on August 4, 2006
If she really does live in France, one kiss on each cheek. No hug, the French are weird about close contact with acquaintances.
Wear clean trousers (khakis or the like -- no jeans) and a buttoned down shirt (ironed, but it doesn't have to be tucked in.) And unscuffed shoes (or at least very clean sneakers.) Once you've convinced the man you're a nice, upstanding fellow, wear the wacky shirt another time once he's warmed up to you. He probably does have a good sense of humor, but be respectful of him -- you're schtupping his daughter, don't be a wise-ass on top of it.
Nah, wear what's comfortable. Shy away from slogans and smug t-shirts, but if you're a t-shirt and jeans guy, go for it. Just make sure they're presentable t-shirt and jeans.
posted by The Michael The at 7:48 AM on August 4, 2006
Wear clean trousers (khakis or the like -- no jeans) and a buttoned down shirt (ironed, but it doesn't have to be tucked in.) And unscuffed shoes (or at least very clean sneakers.) Once you've convinced the man you're a nice, upstanding fellow, wear the wacky shirt another time once he's warmed up to you. He probably does have a good sense of humor, but be respectful of him -- you're schtupping his daughter, don't be a wise-ass on top of it.
Nah, wear what's comfortable. Shy away from slogans and smug t-shirts, but if you're a t-shirt and jeans guy, go for it. Just make sure they're presentable t-shirt and jeans.
posted by The Michael The at 7:48 AM on August 4, 2006
I vote for french kissing the mother, Tokil. You'll probably get slapped but, hey, if you don't... it's GOLDEN.
posted by Justinian at 8:11 AM on August 4, 2006
posted by Justinian at 8:11 AM on August 4, 2006
Offensive/funny or not, you shouldn't wear that shirt because it's hideous. Even if he thinks it's funny, he's gonna think his daughter's bfriend can't dress himself.
posted by dobbs at 8:19 AM on August 4, 2006
posted by dobbs at 8:19 AM on August 4, 2006
Short-sighted, you say? Can't go wrong with nekkid women.
I keed, I keed.
posted by chrismear at 9:46 AM on August 4, 2006
I keed, I keed.
posted by chrismear at 9:46 AM on August 4, 2006
Wear the shirt and French kiss her mother. It'll make for a great story to tell your drinking buddies the following weekend after you've been dumped! :)
posted by junesix at 9:57 AM on August 4, 2006
posted by junesix at 9:57 AM on August 4, 2006
I surveyed my own father (he has three daughters, so he's met a few boyfriends along the way). Here is what he said:
If the one i looked at using the F word is an example of the humor, I would say NO WAY JOSE!
posted by ThePinkSuperhero at 3:49 PM on August 4, 2006 [1 favorite]
If the one i looked at using the F word is an example of the humor, I would say NO WAY JOSE!
posted by ThePinkSuperhero at 3:49 PM on August 4, 2006 [1 favorite]
Sounds like a Baaaaad idea to me, but why don't you ask your girlfriend.
posted by zgott300 at 4:29 PM on August 4, 2006
posted by zgott300 at 4:29 PM on August 4, 2006
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