Selfish in bed... what to do?
July 22, 2006 3:42 PM Subscribe
How common is it for someone not to get any pleasure from bringing sexual pleasure to their partner? Is there anything that can be done about it?
posted by anonymous to Human Relations (11 answers total) 4 users marked this as a favorite
I have noticed that among the relatively few women I have had physical relationships with, some took actual sexual pleasure themselves in giving me pleasure, whereas others, if they did things for me at all, did it more out of a sense of obligation. They didn't seem to get any inherent pleasure from giving pleasure.
I find this totally bizarre because *nothing* turns me on more than bringing pleasure to my partner.
My questions are (1) For the more experienced readers, how common is this? (2) Is it more common in women than men, or vice versa, or about equal? (3) Is there anything that can be done about lover like this? Does anyone have any success stories?