Is it normal for a 37 year old man to live in filth? What to do about it?
June 6, 2006 5:44 PM Subscribe
[NormalcyFilter] Is it normal for a 37 year old man to be a slob? And what can I do about it?
posted by k8t to Human Relations (40 answers total) 4 users marked this as a favorite
I've been living apart from my boyfriend of 4 years (3 years living together) for the past 9 months. I was abroad doing a master's program. I returned to "our" apartment to find a fridge full of moldy, rotten food (most of which was purchased when I was here at Christmas), toilets with nearly permanent stains, and tons of messes. Every drawer in the kitchen, office and bathrooms is now a "junk drawer." I did not leave the house like this. When I first moved in with him 3 years ago, I did a similar big clean. I though that by keeping our house similarly clean since then would have taught him, but I guess not.
I spent a number of hours scrubbing out all kitchen applicances, bathrooms, etc. I don't have abnormal standards, I just want things to be clean and hygenic. I only clean a few times a month and not obsessively.
What I want to know is: 1) is this normal behavior for a 37-year-old man? I'd assume by this point he'd know enough to give his fridge and bathrooms a good clean, especially before girlfriend arrives home. Or maybe are other people in similar circumstances? 2) do I have any right to get mad about this? I've been passively angry all day and have told him off about it. 3) what can I do to change this behavior? I'm leaving for another few months soon and I don't want to repeat this again! Or, instead of changing his behavior, should I hire a cleaning person so I'll stop getting mad at him?