How to deal with my brother's divorce?
May 23, 2006 9:14 AM Subscribe
Help me get through my brother's divorce.
posted by starbaby to human relations (23 answers total)
First, I want to say that this is going to be a very condensed version of a very long story.
My brother married a woman that would be my nemesis were we in a comic book. They were pregnant when they married, and my beautiful nephew was soon born. Their marriage was never solid to begin with; it soon became even weaker. She began to rack up debt, grow distant, and become unfaithful. She also never took proper care of their son.
They separated, and the arrangement from that point until now has basically been that my family keeps the nephew during the week, and my sister-in-law keeps him on the weekends. Barring scheduling conflicts and her regular breakdowns, this is how things have gone for almost two years.
Now they have finally gotten their funds together for a divorce. My sister-in-law is seeking custody of the child, as well as asking for child support from my brother. Given her drastically lacking mothering skills and complete disregard for my nephew's best interest, my brother is obviously seeking the same. There is also the matter of marriage debt to consider.
I will be present for the divorce trial in two weeks. Though we seem to have a pretty strong case against her, I am still terrified at the thought of my nephew falling into the dangerous hands of his mother.
So here are my questions for you MeFites:
What can I do to better deal with the anxiety from this situation?
What do you wish you knew at your/your relative's divorce trial that you did not know?
Are there surprises at this court date I may not be expecting?
And finally, how can I possibly deal with the situation should my sister-in-law actually manage to get custody?
Thank you in advance.