Polite People
May 19, 2006 5:27 AM Subscribe
Do polite or nice people annoy you ?
when you interact with very polite people - do they end up just annoying you ? Would you rather just deal with people who
are'nt constantly aware or conscious of their own behavior ?
when you interact with very polite people - do they end up just annoying you ? Would you rather just deal with people who
are'nt constantly aware or conscious of their own behavior ?
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Only if they are fake. And you can tell who these people are. Some people are genuinely pure, and others just put on a front.
posted by mhuckaba at 5:40 AM on May 19, 2006
posted by mhuckaba at 5:40 AM on May 19, 2006
Open-ended chatty questions that don't offer a problem to be solved are detrimental to the long term usefulness of the site.
Flagarino!
posted by chuma at 5:40 AM on May 19, 2006
Flagarino!
posted by chuma at 5:40 AM on May 19, 2006
Polite or nice people are, in general, much less likely to annoy me than are impolite or obnoxious people. Having said that, when polite niceness is laid on too thickly, or is obviously fake, this can of course be annoying; and in some cases, instinctive antipathies can lead one to be impatient with people regardless of the niceties of their behaviour. Would I rather just deal with people who aren’t constantly aware or conscious of their own behavior? - no.
posted by misteraitch at 5:41 AM on May 19, 2006
posted by misteraitch at 5:41 AM on May 19, 2006
Flagarino!
Meh. The problem is jacobean wants to know if he's alone feeling this way and/or what he can do about it.
I agree with other posters that sincerity is an important differentiator. That said, "excessive" politeness can also be a sign of social insecurity / feelings of unworthiness.
I like wise quotes from the ancients. My all-time favorite which I have been meditating on as a New Year's resolution is:
"Be kind, for everyone you meet is fighting a hard battle." --Philo
(To which I add "including me.")
No one has ever accused me of being a patient person, but meditating on this is helping me be a little more compassionate with "overly polite" people and everyone else too.
posted by ZenMasterThis at 5:49 AM on May 19, 2006
Meh. The problem is jacobean wants to know if he's alone feeling this way and/or what he can do about it.
I agree with other posters that sincerity is an important differentiator. That said, "excessive" politeness can also be a sign of social insecurity / feelings of unworthiness.
I like wise quotes from the ancients. My all-time favorite which I have been meditating on as a New Year's resolution is:
"Be kind, for everyone you meet is fighting a hard battle." --Philo
(To which I add "including me.")
No one has ever accused me of being a patient person, but meditating on this is helping me be a little more compassionate with "overly polite" people and everyone else too.
posted by ZenMasterThis at 5:49 AM on May 19, 2006
Hmm - there's a woman who sits near me at work who takes customer phone calls all day. She enunciates everything very clearly and carefully, and talks as if she's got a plum in her mouth.
Although no doubt it sounds polite to the person on the other end of the phone, it drives me to distraction - IMO it sounds like she's "putting it on" and being overly faux-polite. Grr.
I don't think that there's anything one can do in this situation (apart from shout at them in your mind, and thank your lucky stars you aren't dealing with a goit!)... and if *you* are that person being too polite? Hmm - not sure what the best way to change is...
posted by Chunder at 5:51 AM on May 19, 2006
Although no doubt it sounds polite to the person on the other end of the phone, it drives me to distraction - IMO it sounds like she's "putting it on" and being overly faux-polite. Grr.
I don't think that there's anything one can do in this situation (apart from shout at them in your mind, and thank your lucky stars you aren't dealing with a goit!)... and if *you* are that person being too polite? Hmm - not sure what the best way to change is...
posted by Chunder at 5:51 AM on May 19, 2006
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posted by caddis at 5:29 AM on May 19, 2006