Transitioning from an intimate online relationship to real life?
April 19, 2006 5:41 PM Subscribe
I've been talking with a wonderful person online, and we're meeting up soon. But I'm at a loss as to what we should converse about, and it's not because we don't have anything in common! Please suggest areas of conversation!
posted by anonymous to human relations (17 answers total) 3 users marked this as a favorite
The two of us 'clicked' extremely well, and thanks to the disarming nature of the internet, we summarily skipped the normal "so, what kind of cuisine do you like?" fluff and went for the "serious stuff" that people looking for long-term relationships want to know. Over the course of a rather short duration (on the order of weeks), we've talked a lot.
Consequently, in a very short period of time, the two of us have candidly gone over a lot of potential "deal-breaker" type stuff -- reasonble summaries of sordid (or not) pasts, expectations about financies, the role of family, the importance of careers vs. family for both, the role of in-laws, religion(s), pet(s), children (how many, when, who takes care of them), how much contact we would expect for any long-distance issues, where to ultimately live and how that's decided, politics, and many other "important issues" besides.
Suffice it to say, while we're not mental clones of each other, we're not all that far off either. Both of us are pleased as punch at the similiarity as well as how easily we communicate. Of course, we've hit a lot of the 'fluff' on our sojourns to the land of "philosophy of relationships" and so on. But now, what do we talk about?
Do we move on to a serious discussion of some of our interests? Start sharing funny anecdotes and other lighter stuff? Rant in unison about our perceived deficiencies in the state of politics and governance?