Dealing with guilt?
April 11, 2006 2:06 PM Subscribe
How do you deal with a family member who constantly inflicts feelings of guilt
posted by jca to human relations (29 answers total) 7 users marked this as a favorite
My friend's mother makes him feel guilty about EVERYTHING. His mother likes playing the "victim", passing negative judgements on others, being overly critical, wanting to be the center of attention, etc.
Since I didn't get that from my parents, I'm trying to understand his relationship with his mother a bit better -- I'd just like to be able to give some worthwhile advice or help. This dynamic has obviously affected relationships, self-esteem, etc. I imagine they feel a lot of anxiety when being around this person.
I assume this is all about exerting control over someone -- a type of bullying?
Do you have someone in your life (parent(s), relationship, work, etc.) who tries to inflict feelings of guilt to get their way? How do you deal with it?
Do you find yourself driven by guilt? Do you use it on others? Is it a person's own fault if they let someone make them feel guilty about things they probably shouldn't be feeling bad about?
What can someone do to address this problem?
Appreciate any advice/insight on this.