Hold the door!
April 3, 2006 5:02 PM Subscribe
Social-convention filter: Why do I feel obliged to hold the door open for women but they do not for me?
posted by Slimemonster to Society & Culture (39 answers total)
Maybe this is just a Seattle thing, but I was always taught to hold the door open for women (for men too, I suppose) and people are generally appreciative of it. However, when someone is right behind me and I don't see them and I let the door go and they have to open it themselves, I get different reactions from men and women. Men just grab the door, open it themselves and move on. Women often cluck their tongues or roll their eyes at me like I might just be the biggest asshole in the world. In addition to this, I'd say like 25% of the time women hold doors open for me, instead leaving me to my own devices.
What do people have to say about this phenomenon? I would assume it just something that's been socialized into our society, but is it this way across cultures and nations? Or am I just reading too much into other people's reactions?