Am I missing some big problem to the idea of taking my wife-to-be's name?
March 27, 2006 1:35 PM Subscribe
What's so wrong with taking my wife-to-be's name?
posted by jefgodesky to Society & Culture (88 answers total) 1 user marked this as a favorite
Of course, it will cost another $5 to get a new name here, and there's all those other internet accounts lurking about, but I think I can handle all that. My fiance doesn't want to change her name, which is something I can definitely respect, but for myriad reasons from the strictly anthropological to the completely sentimental, it's important to me that someone changes their name to the others'. I don't have a problem with it being me; in fact, I can see a lot of benefits to that arrangement.
Of course, the suggestion of it horrified my family. Even her family was pretty lukewarm, and her grandparents were card-carrying members of the Communist party. Yet even the arch-liberals repeated the refrain: "You'll regret it!"
I've looked into it, and it looks like the burden of paperwork on me isn't significantly greater than the burden on her would be. There's the social stigma, and the fact that people who know me now might think I'm "whipped," but that doesn't concern me much, either.
Given the ominous warnings, I'm beginning to think that I'm missing something. Is there some huge problem with a male taking his bride's last name that I'm simply unaware of?