Lazy pregnancy = bad mom?
March 27, 2006 5:56 AM Subscribe
I'm pregnant and it's not at all what I thought it'd be. And evidently I'm not at all the kind of mother I thought I'd be.
posted by justonegirl to Health & Fitness (48 answers total) 5 users marked this as a favorite
I'm 8 weeks pregnant and the baby was a surprise (my husband and I had finally stopped focusing on getting pregnant after about a year of not succeeding). Last year, when we were really hyper-focused on it, I had so many plans for the kind of pregnant mom I'd be -- I memorized the nutrition requirements, was so certain I'd exercise and do all the things to ensure my baby was the healthiest it could be.
I guess I'm having trouble coping with the feeling that I'm a horrible mother-to-be. Because the reality is, I can barely bring myself to eat anything (I'm living on saltines, ginger ale, cereal and other random, non-healthy things). I'm not doing much besides laying around. And I feel really guilty about it, yet physically, I feel so horrible that I can't really fathom preparing (or eating) good meals or getting any kind of exercise. On top of that, I'm feeling pretty useless in general because my other responsibilities (my freelance work, contributing to my husband's business, and household chores) are really suffering. Basically I feel lazy and worthless, in spite of the fact that my husband's been supportive. I know plenty (if not most) other mothers-to-be are able to juggle working full time, taking care of other kids, etc. and the fact that I can't seem to do the bare minimum is really tearing me up.
Oh and one other thing -- one would think that the fact that we've had some complications (a miscarriage scare, low fetal heart rate, and a trip 2 days ago to the ER with a UTI and enlarged ovarian cyst) would motivate me to be SuperPregnantMom. But it hasn't. Sure, I spend a lot of worrying (and convincing myself that "bed rest" is somehow helping), but nothing productive to enhance the health of my baby.
Sorry this is so long...I guess I'd just appreciate any kind of advice on handling either the practical side of pregnancy or the emotional aspect of feeling like such a bum and a bad mother. Thanks in advance.