Help me find what I want.
March 16, 2006 9:20 AM Subscribe
All of the guides to life planning or career management start from the assumption that the individual knows what they want or at least what they like. I have no idea what I want. What can I do to discover or rediscover direction?
My family is somewhat stoic and really taught me how to ignore my desires or bury them to support the desires/interests of others. Thus, I have become quite gifted at delayed gratification with little gratification at any point. I tend to focus on long-term goals and sacrifice happiness to meet those goals. A college degree put off thinking about what I wanted for 6 years, graduate school delayed it for another 8 years, and chasing tenure occupied 7 years. Over this time it has become increasingly difficult to set and achieve goals because I have lost sight of what I want and what it means to me. Right now I am completely stalled. Friends have suggested following my skills – but I am really a jack of all trades. Others have suggested following what I love or what makes me happy – but I don’t get those feelings from anything or at least not in a long time. How do I discover or rediscover the things that I want or things that I like or love?