Requesting resolution for a code of conduct violation
March 22, 2019 10:22 AM Subscribe
Have you filed a code of conduct complaint and been happy with the outcome? If so, can you share whatwas done and/or what outcome you most wanted or requested? Secondarily, if you’ve watched a code of conduct investigation unfold, can you share outcomes that were considered and what eventually happened?
Of course, negative examples can helpful here too.
About a year ago I was repeatedly harassed by an event organizer at the event. I filed a code of conduct complaint with the larger organization. They took it seriously and now the process is wrapping up. The process has gone in such a way that question of what I want is now on the table.
It’s been such a long and hard process that I haven’t been thinking about selecting the napkin colors for my victory party, so to speak. At first I doubted that anyone would take me seriously. Then the process was long. Now I’m busy working on other things I did this to protect other people from this person and their enablers. I thought I’d justbe adding a note in a file that would serve to bolster credibility for a future complaint.
And part of me feels like i already did enough, why should I have to think up or find ways to make this right? And then I think, why should I leave a chance for this harasser to craft their punishment?
I don’t think I want an apology from this person because I’m certain it would take the form of ‘I’m sorry you felt that way about a misunderstanding” and that would piss me off.
So. What did you want? Would you ask for something different now?
About a year ago I was repeatedly harassed by an event organizer at the event. I filed a code of conduct complaint with the larger organization. They took it seriously and now the process is wrapping up. The process has gone in such a way that question of what I want is now on the table.
It’s been such a long and hard process that I haven’t been thinking about selecting the napkin colors for my victory party, so to speak. At first I doubted that anyone would take me seriously. Then the process was long. Now I’m busy working on other things I did this to protect other people from this person and their enablers. I thought I’d justbe adding a note in a file that would serve to bolster credibility for a future complaint.
And part of me feels like i already did enough, why should I have to think up or find ways to make this right? And then I think, why should I leave a chance for this harasser to craft their punishment?
I don’t think I want an apology from this person because I’m certain it would take the form of ‘I’m sorry you felt that way about a misunderstanding” and that would piss me off.
So. What did you want? Would you ask for something different now?
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The point isn't punishment - the point is making the event safer. Too many organizations miss that point entirely.
posted by restless_nomad at 10:30 AM on March 22, 2019 [13 favorites]