"top 20" style article about debating/discussing with men?
September 17, 2018 1:23 PM Subscribe
I'm looking for an article (Buzzfeed, maybe?) that contained a bulleted list of tactics (some) men (allegedly) use when debating with women. It included items like "shift the goalposts" but it was *not* a generic list of debate fallacies. It was, admittedly, a biased listicle, but boy did it describe a very specific situation I observed recently, and I'd like to reread it while cursing and shaking a tiny fist at the universe. Perhaps you can help me find it?
I really thought I'd seen this here, but maybe it just brushed across my Facebook feed, now lost for eternity. A search of AskMe didn't show the reference I thought I'd remembered.
It's not:
https://www.nytimes.com/2018/08/15/nyregion/men-women-candidates-debates.html
or https://thebestschools.org/magazine/15-logical-fallacies-know/
or https://www.harpersbazaar.com/culture/politics/a19480416/women-changing-mens-minds-feminism-steven-crowder/
It is very definitely not https://illimitablemen.com/2014/03/09/how-women-argue/
It almost could be this, except it's only one bullet point: https://medium.com/@jessicavalenti/yes-demanding-women-debate-you-is-like-catcalling-56d85b025500
Note that I am only looking for a link to the article, not trying to argue its accuracy, and I am definitely not accusing you (general or specific you) of applying any of the tactics.
I really thought I'd seen this here, but maybe it just brushed across my Facebook feed, now lost for eternity. A search of AskMe didn't show the reference I thought I'd remembered.
It's not:
https://www.nytimes.com/2018/08/15/nyregion/men-women-candidates-debates.html
or https://thebestschools.org/magazine/15-logical-fallacies-know/
or https://www.harpersbazaar.com/culture/politics/a19480416/women-changing-mens-minds-feminism-steven-crowder/
It is very definitely not https://illimitablemen.com/2014/03/09/how-women-argue/
It almost could be this, except it's only one bullet point: https://medium.com/@jessicavalenti/yes-demanding-women-debate-you-is-like-catcalling-56d85b025500
Note that I am only looking for a link to the article, not trying to argue its accuracy, and I am definitely not accusing you (general or specific you) of applying any of the tactics.
Response by poster: It isn't (because I read this at least 3 months ago, which I should have mentioned), but it is ABSOLUTELY DELIGHTFUL and may serve exactly the same purpose.
But if anybody else remembers the listicle I am remembering, or has any other possible resources, they will be gratefully received.
* While I print out bingo cards for this item and fling them into the air for all my friends.
posted by instamatic at 2:26 PM on September 17, 2018
But if anybody else remembers the listicle I am remembering, or has any other possible resources, they will be gratefully received.
* While I print out bingo cards for this item and fling them into the air for all my friends.
posted by instamatic at 2:26 PM on September 17, 2018
This isn't quite right -- it's not a list of male debating techniques -- but seems relevant.
posted by LizardBreath at 2:59 PM on September 17, 2018 [1 favorite]
posted by LizardBreath at 2:59 PM on September 17, 2018 [1 favorite]
I'm not sure this satire piece actually fits, but it's what immediately came to mind when I read the post: 9 Non-Threatening Leadership Strategies for Women.
posted by pemberkins at 3:04 PM on September 17, 2018 [1 favorite]
posted by pemberkins at 3:04 PM on September 17, 2018 [1 favorite]
Best answer: The Rhetorics page and/or List of rhetorics at the Geek Feminism wiki might help.
posted by Wobbuffet at 4:44 PM on September 17, 2018 [1 favorite]
posted by Wobbuffet at 4:44 PM on September 17, 2018 [1 favorite]
Is it Cracked : “8 Things Some Asshole Says In Every Debate About Sexism”?
posted by snowmentality at 4:44 PM on September 17, 2018 [1 favorite]
posted by snowmentality at 4:44 PM on September 17, 2018 [1 favorite]
Best answer: 20 Diversion Tactics Highly Manipulative Narcissists, Sociopaths And Psychopaths Use To Silence You
posted by lefty lucky cat at 4:57 PM on September 17, 2018 [1 favorite]
posted by lefty lucky cat at 4:57 PM on September 17, 2018 [1 favorite]
This is not it, but perhaps will be helpful?
posted by I_Love_Bananas at 2:23 AM on September 18, 2018 [1 favorite]
posted by I_Love_Bananas at 2:23 AM on September 18, 2018 [1 favorite]
Response by poster: I'm sad to think that maybe I was mixing and matching the 20 Diversion Tactics Highly Manipulative Narcissists, Sociopaths And Psychopaths Use To Silence You (which I definitely read) with the Geek Feminism wiki (which I think I read some of) in my head.
Not a single one of these suggestions will go to waste, though, so thanks!
posted by instamatic at 12:36 PM on September 19, 2018
Not a single one of these suggestions will go to waste, though, so thanks!
posted by instamatic at 12:36 PM on September 19, 2018
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posted by Krazor at 1:49 PM on September 17, 2018 [3 favorites]